d-ray657
11-29-2009, 09:04 AM
Y'all have put up with my rambling posts for awhile here, and I'm going to ask you to indulge me again on the occasion of my 29th anniversary. I think 29 years of marriage qualifies me to say a good marriage doesn't just happen, it takes a lot of work. It also takes good fortune and shared values.
I was fortunate enough to meet my wife while I was taking a shift staying with my grandmother in the hospital. My future wife worked as a nurse aide while she attended nursing school. My opening line was "will you change my grandmother's bed." (Try that one out sometime, all you single guys) She responded in a cheerful way that minimized the nature of the dreary task she had undertaken. After we got to know each other, she would continue to take care of my grandmother each time she would visit my family. After we dated some, I took her to meet my dad, who was in a nursing home as a result of a brain tumor. His roommate became ill while we were visiting, and she was instantly at his side with a emises tray. I knew at that point that I had met someone with a heart as big as the ocean.
In our years of marriage, my wife has given us two sons, and partnered with me to raise two young men who make us proud. One is on his way to being a physicist, and the other plans to become a cop after he gets his degree. She made sure they both know how to treat women and know what it means to work. She has also seen to their exposure to a spiritual life.
My wife has continued to work as a nurse; she does the necessary paperwork and budgeting to make sure we pay all of our bills; she supports her husband in his obsession with vintage stereo equipment; and she has learned how her compassion affects her political views. She has clearly lived up to her vow to take her husband for better or worse, and helped pull him through the struggles of life. In short, I have been luckier than anyone could imagine.
Our marriage has pretty well fit the right wing's definition of marriage. Although we have found that mold comfortable, I would hope that others who don't fit that definition will also be able to find the blessings that we have enjoyed. Happiness should not be limited by race, religion or gender. All loving people should have the opportunity to enjoy the fulfillment that we have worked for and maintained for nearly three decades. I defend marriage as the proper place to be for two people who care enough for each other to want to offer a lifetime of love, support and companionship.
Regards,
D-Ray
I was fortunate enough to meet my wife while I was taking a shift staying with my grandmother in the hospital. My future wife worked as a nurse aide while she attended nursing school. My opening line was "will you change my grandmother's bed." (Try that one out sometime, all you single guys) She responded in a cheerful way that minimized the nature of the dreary task she had undertaken. After we got to know each other, she would continue to take care of my grandmother each time she would visit my family. After we dated some, I took her to meet my dad, who was in a nursing home as a result of a brain tumor. His roommate became ill while we were visiting, and she was instantly at his side with a emises tray. I knew at that point that I had met someone with a heart as big as the ocean.
In our years of marriage, my wife has given us two sons, and partnered with me to raise two young men who make us proud. One is on his way to being a physicist, and the other plans to become a cop after he gets his degree. She made sure they both know how to treat women and know what it means to work. She has also seen to their exposure to a spiritual life.
My wife has continued to work as a nurse; she does the necessary paperwork and budgeting to make sure we pay all of our bills; she supports her husband in his obsession with vintage stereo equipment; and she has learned how her compassion affects her political views. She has clearly lived up to her vow to take her husband for better or worse, and helped pull him through the struggles of life. In short, I have been luckier than anyone could imagine.
Our marriage has pretty well fit the right wing's definition of marriage. Although we have found that mold comfortable, I would hope that others who don't fit that definition will also be able to find the blessings that we have enjoyed. Happiness should not be limited by race, religion or gender. All loving people should have the opportunity to enjoy the fulfillment that we have worked for and maintained for nearly three decades. I defend marriage as the proper place to be for two people who care enough for each other to want to offer a lifetime of love, support and companionship.
Regards,
D-Ray